In a culture increasingly dominated by visual influencers and perpetual connectivity through social media, discussions about women’s appearances have reached a troubling crescendo. Millie Bobby Brown, the celebrated star of “Stranger Things,” recently addressed this issue in a poignant, now-viral video, expressing her discomfort with adults obsessively critiquing her looks. At just 21, she poignantly articulated the impact of such scrutiny, stating, “The fact that adult writers are spending their time dissecting my face, my body, my choices, is disturbing.” Her reflections illuminate a broader, more urgent conversation about how the media—and society at large—treat women, particularly young ones, in a visually-driven world.
As a journalist who has often contributed to this narrative through articles and commentary, I find myself grappling with my complicity in the cycle of criticism and praise surrounding women’s bodies. Brown’s words remind us that behind every photograph and article is a human being whose feelings can be affected by the commentary that surrounds their image. This prompts a necessary examination of how we, as creators and consumers of media, can shift from criticism to celebration.
Redefining Beauty Conversations
For many of us, the norms of complimenting someone’s appearance are ingrained from an early age. We grow up internalizing the cultural belief that physical admittance and validation are essential for self-worth. While acknowledging someone’s beauty is not inherently negative, it raises an important question: Are there alternative ways to uplift individuals that contribute to a more holistic sense of self-esteem?
Instead of limiting our compliments to someone’s appearance—whether it’s about a flattering outfit or impeccable hairstyle—what if we celebrated inner qualities? Many would argue that highlighting attributes like creativity, intelligence, and kindness fosters personal growth and supports a healthier self-image. These attributes are what truly shape a person’s identity and help construct a more positive societal standard.
This contemplation aligns with insights from generations before us who often equated kindness and intelligence with beauty. My own daughter has inspired me to reflect on these changes. “Mom, tell her you love her kindness, not just her hair,” she reminds me daily. It’s a small, yet profound change in the dialogue we share, reminding us to elevate the nature of our discussions surrounding femininity.
Shifting the Narrative: The Journalist’s Responsibility
As someone who has spent years writing about celebrity culture and beauty trends, I recognize the immense power that journalists wield in shaping public perception. The language and tone we employ can either uplift or diminish the spirit of those we write about. Yes, it is essential to acknowledge fashion and cultural trends produced by public figures, yet we must do so in a context that values their humanity over their adherence to beauty standards.
For instance, discussing a celebrity’s fashion choices or grooming should not devolve into scrutiny over their appearance. Rather, it can emerge as an exploration of personal style as an expression of identity. By adopting a celebratory tone, we can spark conversations that empower women—both famous and ordinary—to embrace their individuality.
Occasionally, I, too, have found myself exposed to the acerbic comments of online trolls. Comments like “Which one is the dog?” posted beneath a photograph of me and my pet serve as a harsh reminder that public personas are often at the mercy of hurtful commentary. While one can brush off such remarks, they nonetheless reflect a broader attitude towards women’s bodies and appearances that can often feel unrelenting.
Creating an Inclusive Framework for Support
We must also recognize the role that positive interactions play in shaping self-perception. When we alter the framework of our compliments and discussions to include emotional intelligence and social contributions, we foster a sense of community among women. The encouragement experienced in such spaces can facilitate deeper bonds and friendships, providing strength and support in an often competitive world.
Moreover, it empowers women to articulate their worth beyond physical appearance. Just as the media can uphold damaging narratives, it also possesses the potential to inspire and uplift. If we transform the language we use, we not only cultivate confidence within ourselves but also encourage the next generation to appreciate beauty in all its multifaceted forms, leaving behind a legacy of strength that transcends superficiality. By engaging in this paradigm shift, we pave the way for a broader understanding of value—one that is rooted in kindness, empathy, and authenticity.